STEREOTYPES
We
made ready. We opened our doors, our hearts, our wallets to them and they
did not come, at least not in the droves we expected. When they were
asked, “Who wants to go to
Iowa
?”
not many raised their hands. They thought to themselves, “
Iowa
?
Why would I want to go to
Iowa
?
All there is is corn, corn and more corn. What do I know about corn? I’m
from the south where we grow cotton.” And so they kept their hands to
their sides and we took down the cots and lowered our expectations about
how many refugees would come stay with us at least for a while.
Stereotypes: we all have them and we all are somehow controlled by
them. The word actually means something that is solid, typical, has a real
basis in fact. Yet all too many of our stereotypes are anything but. They
are generalizations with some truth to them but so general that there is
more untruth than truth.
Over the years I have trod, albeit briefly in many cases, on the
soil of forty-seven of the Lower Forty-Eight. And during those years
whenever my spouse and I considered moving, we always had a short list of
states to which we might want to relocate. How did we make that list? What
were the criteria we used?
Well, to be honest, I suspect 90% of it was and is based on our
perceived stereotypes.
California
is too crowded and too expensive. The south is always too hot, has too
many bugs and would certainly not welcome a Yankee.
Montana
is both beautiful and barren;
Wyoming
,
simply barren; the Southwest is too dry and too brown; the
Dakotas
are too cold; the Northeast is wonderful but lives at too fast a pace for
us. The East Coast: one large traffic jam.
Nevada
?
Please.
West
Virginia
:
Jedd Clampett and the
Beverly
Hillbillies. Oh, wait a minute. Arlena was born there and I served there
for seventeen years: wonderful State – but I’d have never known it if
my decision to accept a call there had been based on my conceived
stereotype of “almost heaven”.
I had never visited
West
Virginia
before accepting a call there. Ditto for
Northwestern
Pennsylvania
,
Spokane
or
Cedar
Rapids
.
First impressions were all good but also no more valuable than
stereotypes. We know that but all too often we make life decisions based
on those first impressions and/or stereotypes. Sometimes we get lucky and
are blessed, as I have been throughout my ministry. Sometimes just the
opposite is true. And sometimes we miss out on a wonderful opportunity
because our stereotype truly prejudiced our decision.
What we do with states we also do with individuals. We stereotype
them and then make decisions and value judgments based on those
stereotypes. Sometimes the stereotype fits. More often than not it does
not because, as with states, stereotypes never get beyond first impression
or go further than skin deep.
Those who chose not to come to
Iowa
based on their stereotyped conception of who we are do not know what they
have given up. That is their loss. When we make decisions about where we
will live, with whom we will associate, about
how
people think or act based on our preconceived stereotypes, we are the
losers.
WJP
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